Recently we were advised by a church authority to never contact a family again. This family we considered good friends. Somewhere along the line we obviously offended the female and have lost good friends :( I don't know anyone who likes to feel responsible for such a loss. This young lady has also blamed us for her inactivity in the church which hurts even more!
I don't know where things went sour, or what the "last straw" was for the young lady. But I do know she is walking around telling others why she is offended and no one will tell us why because they don't wish to get involved. (We share a lot of the same friends.) If you have hard feelings about something SPEAK UP!!! Be an adult and help me figure out why I suck at being your friend.
The biggest issue I have is that I have started to harbor ill feelings against this friend- things that normally I would let roll off my back, things that happened in my home that I didn't approve of but let slide at the time because she WAS a friend. Now that we aren't friends I am letting them fester. I invested time, effort and love into this young lady and her small family. I feel I deserve the courtesy of "you hurt me and this how..." but since I don't have that I am a bit discouraged in putting any effort into any relationship outside my family.
How do you let go? I am sure she would revel in the fact that I feel so horrible- if she only knew! How does one love someone who considers you an enemy? How does one get over rejection? I thought I was over these High school games and adult enough to deal with rejection but that is obviously not the case.
How do I go about getting over my negative feelings and harbor only good ones? I do not wish to let go of our friendship but will respect her wishes and leave her alone