After much discussion Jake agreed to let me look for a job. He has never wanted me to work so I could focus on the home, and we would never have to adjust from going from a two income family to a one income family when children came into our lives. It has worked well until recently.
Buying your first home is exciting but all the things that go with it can be financially draining. We have always made money off the army when it comes to housing, now for the first time in 8+yrs we are having to put more money into housing than they are giving us. It became clear to me early on that I needed a job , but Jake took a lot of convincing.
We chose the little town of Elgin because it had the better school system in the area, and little crime- which is a huge issue in the city.
Issues I had to consider when thinking of employment were
-I have to small kids at home, I don't want someone else raising them!!
-Sitters cost money, so why work when I have to pay a sitter the majority of my wages
-We live 15+miles from the outskirts of the city (gas money, tolls, and time spent going into town. Round trip it costs me $6.75 to go into to town and 20-40minutes each way depending on which side of town I have to go to.)
-There are only two diners, a sub shop, a pizzeria, a grocery store, and two dollar store in Elgin
-The neighbour kids who could watch the kids until Jake got home get off the bus at 4pm
-Jake is home around 4:30ish ussually and leaves the house at 4:30am.
-I don't want to work Sundays (big shopping day here)
So my job options were limited. All I want is to work 10-15hrs a week to pay for the extras in life. While out on a date last week we dropped by a franchise in town advertising "Hiring". I went in early this week to talk to the manager and was hired on the spot and started three hours later. She asked me why I wanted to work there, I explained to her the hours work with raising my kids (4pm-10) and that it was close to home so I didn't have to drive more than 2miles to work.
SO here it is I work at PIZZA BIZ! A small pizzeria. It was kind of fun taking orders again, I also made dough, and cooked a few pizzas, nothing fantastic but it was good to feel like I was contributing to the family. I don't know exactly what my schedule will be like but most nights it will be just from 5-8pm. They are still trying to get me to work Sundays, but I just keep praying they will drop it, and give them to me. Everybody there does everything. Everybody takes turns driving, cooking, making dough, doing dishes, stocking shelves, etc.... For 10+hrs a week I think I will be able to handle this for a year until Jakes next pay raise. Plus I will finally be taught how to toss pizza dough like in the movies... :)
My Inner battles- I work at a pizza joint! I need to get on to a career type job- but I also need to just focus on my kids. I will continue to take classes. I am taking two classes this semester and hopefully will be able to work on CLEP-ing out off a few credits. I am working towards eventually having a day time job so in the years to come I can move on to something a little more reputable, when my kids are in school.
Jakes inner battles- I am working and he has to let me. He feels he has failed me in some small way because I have to work. In reality it is just what we have to do to make owning our home work for now.
Here's to my new job!